High Hopes?
I have this compulsive habit of getting my hopes up really high.
Today was a perfect example that. I am one of those unbelievably strange people that LOVES the snow. I don’t just like a little bit of it either, I want to see feet of snow. While I write that I can honestly feel about half of you reading this check check out and think “This guy is a moron.”
Today while I was working at the college there was what looked like at the time a huge snow storm coming in and I was literally like a 5 year old about it. But regardless of how hard I screamed and pleaded there was snow snow that ever really stuck.
This is my struggle.
But there is some good news.
Friendship Makes The Difference

The God of Purpose

What Are You?
A Post About Nothing
What’s Really Not Working
So now that we have asked the question, what’s working in your life, there is a much harder question to ask yourself.
What isn’t working?
It’s not that it is really difficult to figure out, especially after looking at what is working in your life but this is the area of your life where there are hard decisions to make. None of us ever want to admit failure at something or that we have been doing something wrong. But none of us are perfect. So we have to be honest with ourselves and admit there are some things in our lives that flat out just don’t work.
Here is the key though when looking at things that aren’t working. When you see that this activity or relationship isn’t exactly working, don’t get the axe out immediately. Try a different approach before doing anything drastic.
Change it.
If it is a relationship that is the problem in your life, change the relationship. Take a look at the importance of it to you and time it consumes and adjust it if needed. If the relationship needs more time to be successful, then put more time into it. Also, you might have to make the hard decision and cut some of the time from the relationship to do what you need to do if you want to become who you want to be. (Disclaimer: Your marriage should always be your top priority, don’t tell your spouse you need some “you” time for a hobby or goal. This should really be aimed towards friendships.) If your friends are really your friends they will want you to be successful and accomplish your goals. They might not just be OK with it but may chip in and be able to help you somehow!
My biggest problem that has needed to be changed is TV. I probably watch less TV than most people but still more than I need to watch. It’s just hard to get motivated to do something when you are laid out on the couch and your favorite show is on. But you might have to trim the amount of shows you watch to make sure you have time. You might have to stay up a little later to get them in. But don’t let your TV be what stands in between you and your dreams. Wow, that just sounds crazy when you say it out loud.
Whatever it is that isn’t working in your life and is holding you back, change it.
You would be surprised how many things are just a little tweak away from being an asset!
What’s Actually Working
I like to ask myself questions to figure out what’s going on in my life. I look at it like this, I can’t depend on someone else to pop in and ask me a hard question that makes me look at how I am doing things. But we all need to look at our habits and how we are doing things in our lives. It’s how we grow. So if I can’t count on someone else to look at me and ask “What in the world do you think you are doing?” I need to ask myself these questions from time to time. (I have an amazing support system that keeps me straight but it personally helps me to ask myself too.)
All that being said over the next 3 days I want to share with you 3 questions that can change how you live. They are simple questions. But isn’t simple what we really need. Isn’t there enough complicated stuff going on in our lives? So let’s take a step back from your life for a second and just look at it.
Let’s look at what is working in your life.
You would be shocked at the look you will get from people when you ask them, “What is really working in your life right now?”
It sounds really simple, right?
Wrong!
We can’t even figure out what is going well in our own lives without doing it intentionally. We aren’t just sitting on the couch thinking to ourselves, “these 4 hours of watching TV has really made me a better person!” That’s why it is so important to take a step back and get more of an aerial view of your life and see what is going well and what is taking you in the direction you want to go in.
Also when I say look at what’s working that doesn’t mean just take a snap shot of the activity you are doing right then and judge it, look at everything.
Look at your relationships.
Look at your habits.
Look at your schedule.
Look at everything.
And only after you have looked at all these things closely, decide what is helping you. Decide what in your life you absolutely have to keep the same because it is helping you grow into the person you want to ultimately become.
Ask yourself what’s working and then make sure you keep those things in your life.
This Happy
When You Know Who You Are
There is a really big problem in our Christian culture these days. We have a huge amount of God’s people having a personality crisis. We don’t know where we belong or if we even truly want to belong to one side totally and wholly.
We are torn between this world and the next.
We are torn between now and then.
We are torn between is and going to be.
There are many problems facing us with this perspective. The main one being we probably don’t understand what we possess as a Christian if we getting hung up in this world. In the book of Hebrews it talks a lot about the “better things” in Christ.
The author didn’t pen these thoughts down because they thought it would make some catchy sermons and sermon series about the “Better Things of God”. Nope they wrote these thoughts down because we do have so many better things in Christ than we have here.
There is also that affects us in the here and now that we have to understand. We will never be able to live a totally fulfilled life if we live with a toe in both worlds. The way to being and living a totally fulfilled life is to surrender to one side or the other. In Revelation Jesus says to the Laodicean church that He would rather they “wert cold or hot”. This is His way of saying “Pick a side, get off the fence!”
We have to choose a side.
We can’t keep sitting on the fence.
It’s time to do something meaningful.